Weigh

Hey amigos and amigas. Freaking long time eh? I mean my update? Actually it isn't that long compared to the last time where Dom was nagging me to update which theoretically speaking, I didn't write in a new post for nearly two months. Yea that long. But that was because I was really tied up. So much so my cousin was saying, "Dude, take a break, have a wank!" Haha. Anyway I was actually wanting to update earlier, it's just the title where I was dissecting about alot. Yea, I was practically thinking about the correct title for this blog for some days. Call me a perfectionist, but I feel if you wanna write about an article or post, the title must be right. It's just like a movie. Titles sometimes intrigue people to watch a movie.

I was asking Dom but he misunderstood me. He thought I wanna the title for my blog page where he was saying, "Do not offer me a comb!" That was hillarious but when I told him that actually it's the title, he too was laughing. It's typical of Dom to think differently, in a joking manner actually because that dude is a typical joker. His way of thinking differently to come up with a joke is awesome. Plus he's witty as well. Which chick doesn't wanna the combo in a dude? Oh yea I forgot. It's women we are talking about. Known for complications. Haha. Alright ladies, no hard feelings, ain't a sexist as well. But it's kind of a fact isn't it? As I was showering today, I came up with the title. Funny place to get stuff like that eh? But maybe even Einstein came up with the last formula to make the Atomic bomb while he's answering nature's call? Who knows?

So you must me wondering what's up with the weigh topic right? It feels damn right, the title. I wanted to talk about something really badly, you know to help couples or should I even say 'going to be couples' too. Applicable for everyone. You guys may go, "What do you know about relationships? You are not even attached." Hell yea, I am not and I am not intending to be soon because I love women so much that it's tough to practice monogamy. Haha! Alright that was a joke but this is the truth. I get experienced through other people's experiences.

I need to ask a question to you people. When a man is attached to a woman, does that mean he forgets his friends? Does that mean she becomes his everything? Like if he gotta go somewhere, it's always she who's tagging? It always a 'she' 'she' and 'she'. The same goes to ladies. Is it always a 'he' 'he' and 'he'? I'm being frank here. I'll get literally bored. No offense to the couples out there, but I am being serious here and normally when the above happens, that's how couples cheat each other, that's how they end the relationship with each other, that's how a sweet relationship turns sour. Maybe you people will go, "Wait till you are in a relationship, then you'll be the same". No. I won't. I would never do what most couples do. Why do these problems start? I give you an example.

Fred(not his real name), happen to be dating this girl called Mona(Not her real name). They were so in love with each other and doing things basically with each other all the time. Eat together, go to school together, go back home together and basically see each other every single day. They call the first three months the 'honey moon' period right? So what happens once the three months end? Fred happen to get busy with school work and he realized seeing his girlfriend everyday was a chore and not like going to heaven. It's no more 'to the moon and back' but 'to the hell and back'. He became bored seeing his gf. He lost his close buddies where once they go "through thick and thin", because he was avoiding them once he gotta attached. So what happen? Well, he started avoiding his gf, not totally but because 'now' he needed his friends. He started telling lots of fibs to his gf just not to meet her all the time. His gf became confused with her bf. She started becoming possessive and keep asking him, "What's wrong?" and also, "Do you still love me?" He became depressed and she became depressed. I saw him online in Msn the other day and he came talking to me. I happen to know him and his gf and I know this would happen between them.

"Dude, it's not that I don't like her, though she is questioning my loyalty and love for her nowadays. It's just that a man needs his space. You, I and she needs her space. We all need it. She's sticking to me like glue and I feel uncomfortable." From the way he write, I know he is feeling tensed. I replied him sarcastically, "Dude, wow. You are speaking so wisely now. If only you have practiced it earlier, you wouldn't be in this shit. " Then Fred said, "Dude, help me. I love her but I need my space. I have been lying to her a lot, just to avoid her but I don't want to. What can I do?"

Women, by and large, are more perceptive than men. They can instantly identify insincerity and bullshit. So to make a lie 'believable', a guy has to be a real actor but the question is even though he is one, how long can he concoct? Fred's gf wasn't the only one at fault, but Fred himself was the culprit. The reason why his gf became demanding and possessive was because of him. He played the 'game' with her together . He 'give in' to her in everything. Like going to school, eating and seeing her all the time. So what happens when suddenly he stops? She will definitely find it odd. She can't accept Fred's attitude. She becomes melodramatic. It's not her fault. It's Fred who started it. The more Fred gives in to her, the more she becomes demanding. It's not only women. It's Men as well. Most humans tend to take advantage of something when everything is falling on their laps. They take things for granted. Like Fred, he nearly lost his buddies. Why is it when one is attached, the friends suffer the consequences? Why are the friends punished for no freaking reason? You mean to tell me, friends are just there to pass time and once getting attached, friends are forgotten? But I thought the friends came first before the 'significant other' ? So you only go back to your friends if you happen to have problems in your relationship? That's fucking selfish. What do you take friends for? A ride?

I am going to tell you people what one gotta do when you are in a relationship or going to be in a relationship. I may be wrong and some might hit me with coarse languages now but this is how I feel.

1)Do not see your other gf or bf every single day. You'll get bored. Trust me. We all do so don't fib with me.

2) Do not do every single thing with your gf or bf. True, couples do most things together but refrain from it.

3) Do not forget your friends. Your true pals will always be there for you. Never forget them. Never take them for a ride.

4) Do not talk in the phone the whole day with your gf or bf. I see my cousin doing that with his gf most of the time and I wonder if he'll ever get bored and become dehydrated. I am not saying not to speak with your partner. Speak, but minimize it to maybe 30mins per day? Or the most, 1 hour.

5) Please for God's sake, give each other your space, male and female. All of us need our space or we'll feel uncomfortable.

6) Try to see your partner once or twice a week because you'll definitely be eager to see them.

I advised Fred from to do all the above, I have explained. But first I told him to go and have an open chat with his gf. Tell him how he feels and what they should do. He's doing that now and he claims him seeing his gf on Fri, make him excited. The more you delay from doing or seeing something or someone( I mean the things you want to do), the more you wanna see or do it. So challenge yourself. In future, when I get my gf, I'll explain this terms to her. Alright don't say terms because it sounds like a treaty. Haha. Just say something both of us should talk about and understand and do it. So anybody wanna be my gf? I am sorry, I don't practice monogamy. Haha.

Brawns

I was in the Bus 39 today and I was analyzing how fit I was during the national service days. I use to be 79kg when I went in the national service so coming down to 66kg was a major achievement and I was fit. In fact you can even see my abs on my belly. I wouldn't say they were fully develop but I had 4 of them. The last two was tough to achieve because I do have excess fats. If I had fully concentrated in my workouts, I would have achieved them but I lost my concentration and discipline. Damn. Now you can hardly see the abs. I told myself I need to get back to NS fitness. In fact even fitter than that. I always wanna abs and pecs. Not exactly for the women but mostly for myself. And I wanna fit my body into a white T-shirt and blue jeans. The hunky and lean type of look.

I realized I have become lazier and it's time to start the ball rolling with my workouts. Of course, my diet is also important. I need to be more discipline now. If I wanna a body, it most probably will be like Tyrese. (The dude who acted in 2 fast 2 furious). I remember there was one part of the movie where he took of his start and all the women go "WOW!". Haha. Anyway, I am gonna use him as a motivation. Time to Rock and Roll.

Here are two pictures of him..

Embrace or Smooch?

Hey. What's up to all the amigos and amigas? Just to inform all those caring and loving people out there, I'm doing fine. I guess my departure on Tuesday was rather alarming isn't it? Well, yea, I was going through stress, to put it in short. Feeling uncomfortable rather lately because of some various reasons and after a good chat with a good friend of mine, a psychologist and a facilitator in school, I am doing fine. I guess everyone go through shitty times and mine just happen lately. I gotta say it was a hell of a period and I'm still recovering(I will be lying if I said I had fully recovered) and wanting to think and be positive all the time. I guess in life we gotta face the good and the bad and it's inevitable. We can't run away from it no matter where we wanna hide.

Anyway, today is my pleasure to talk about something I experience a few days ago and it made wanna write about it in this post. Funny, a small incident can make you analyze alot. Don't you think so? The wonders of our mind. Back to the topic, I was in Bus 81, with my maternal side cousin heading down to Kovan Bus-stop(the stop where it leads to Kovan Mrt Station). We were sitting at the back seat with a woman who was carrying one young child, sleeping, on her chest while two other children sleeping on the seat beside her. The kids look rather exhausted. To dissect the long story a little, the mum and I began chatting. She was asking us where we were alighting so we claim it's the Kovan Bus-stop. A smile came to her face because she was alighting at the same bus-stop. She then asked both my cousin and I, a favor which we never would have expected and truthfully both of us were taken aback. Since she was carrying one child on her arms, she asked us to carry the other female child sleeping on the seat.(The third child woke up in the midst of the conversation and my cousin heaved a sigh of relief because he was rather coy in carrying a child and the knucklehead was looking at me with the pity plus cheeky look which showed "Hey, you are gonna carry the child.) I admit I was erm uncomfortable initially carrying an unknown kid and I was thinking really deeply how to pick the kid up carefully and not spoil her beauty sleep which might piss her off if I did and kick me in the nuts. Haha. Okay that is an overstatement but it is possible.:) The bus-stop came and I picked the kid from the seat. Guess what? After instantly picking her up, I don't regret it anymore. I felt so good because she was really hugging me so tightly. Like a big bear hug. She curled her hands around my neck so tightly like her whole life is safe with me. I really love the feeling. And no friends, I ain't a pedophile. So if your crude mind is going into that, halt! I just love the feeling of a great hug. It's like your miseries can be forgotten in a second by just a hug. I realize how much I have missed a hug from someone. The last time I got a hug was from a close female friend whom I have not met up after so long and she's gonna murder me if I still delay in not seeing her. Haha. That hug she gave me was a friendly one, not exactly a bear hug but still it was good but cannot beat the kid's one. Haha, sorry Yenn, pal.

I was later pondering in the evening, am I a hugging sort of person or the kissing sort. Like for example if you are in a relationship, do you prefer a hug or a kiss? Difficult to choose eh? Let me guess most of you guys would prefer a passionate kiss or the one where you actually devour each other mouths grossly right? Haha, that was crude. Sure a great kiss puts you in the mood or should I say lustly mood? The one where testosterone levels rises really high up. But that is when you share an intimate moment right? Is there such thing as a intimate hug? Hmm, I ain't sure but if there was I am sure groping comes in as well. Let me recall back. The part where I was kissed by a chick. I didn't feel so great after the kiss. I mean it kind of seem weird because one, she was a friend's sister who kissed me on the cheek and I was really feeling awkward because I didn't expect it and it my close pal's sister! My pal didn't know it and I also don't have the intention to tell him. The kiss didn't make my day. I wasn't smiling like posing for Colgate. The only feeling I got was, it was wet. Haha. So here I am with my verdict, I prefer hugging anytime than a smacker. A great hug makes you feel like you can achieve anything in the world. It's like a good drug which makes you feel high. That's the feeling I wanna.

In truth we humans need human contact. It is scientifically proven all living things need contact. We are programmed that way by the divine God. The only reason we humans are preventing ourselves from hugging each other is because of the way our brain thinks sexually all the damn time when for example an opposite or same gender hugs one another. Automatically our brain relates to something sexual and being in the Asian Society, we hardly hug people unlike the Westerners. They hug and even kiss each other on the cheeks. In theory that should be the way. We should show our affection to our friends or anyone we happen to meet. In this way, we are not only showing people, we are their friends but we are showing love to human nature as well. Imagine if all the leaders of the world who happen to get themselves in a verbal conflict and the only way to solve the problem is through hugging. Now, don't you think our world would be a great, peaceful place if that happens? No more conflicts and once when cool is lost by someone automatically give the person a bear hug and the setback would be solved. Awesome eh?

After the incident, I was telling to my cousin about the sensation of a great hug and he too agreed that a good hug makes one day and true enough, I was basically smiling the whole day and feeling all lively. Even my mum was asking why I was feeling so delirious. Even as I am writing this post, I can't prevent myself from forgetting the incident. Hug buddy? Anyone?:)