I was at work today and I was reading an old tabloid which I happen to pick up from the magazine stand when a group of twenty somethings, came by to my bar. I was giving out the menus when I realized one of them was actually my old secondary school pal. Both of us actually despised each other in secondary school because he was an aloof smart ass who had an ego bigger than his asshole where I was the fat geek kid in school who always wished to punch the shit out of him those days.
Apparently my wish didn't happen and we separated ways. Seeing him today was kind of weird but he is the one who actually made the first move in chatting with me. "How are you?" were his first words. I told him I was doing good and while talking to him, I realized he has changed, for the better. I guess everyone changes and those attitudes in secondary school were all delusional. Thinking about it, it actually puts a smile to my face. There was one thing that never moved or ran away from him. It's his charm. I guess that's his forte. During the days, he use to tease girls mercilessly but rather obnoxiously. The irony part is these girls always come back to him like bees to honey even initially they feel insulted for a moment . How is he able to lure them? That's a good question and it took me years in figuring it out. Some people have it inborn with them while others like me have to go through the tougher way but I was adamant in knowing it and I did figure it out. That's when Syler came in my life. For those of you wondering who Syler is when you read your blogs or what's up with Syler? Well, Syler is actually my alter-ego. My other side, my dark side. Dark side sounds scary, it should be actually enigmatic side.
I was far from being attractive. My body was storing too much fats which would make any sumo-wrestler happy. I reckon I was around 78kg at 19. Though I am not bald, to say my hair is thinning would be an understatement. The front part of hair on my scalp was totally gone. I wear glasses which are so big that if it was worn in the 1970s, it would have been fashion statement. I have big eyes and long eyelashes which I believe adds character to my nerdy, dorky self but due to the big glasses, I've never been complimented on them. I am shorter than I would like to be and I love to eat. When I look down at my fat, horizontally challenged body, I wonder why any women would want to sleep next to it, let alone embrace it. So for me, meeting girls take a hell of a work. I am not the type of guy girls giggle when I walk past. All I have is my mind, and nobody can see that. You may have seen I have not mentioned my personality because it has completely changed or to put it accurately I have changed it drastically. It was never my intention to change my personality, in fact I was happy with myself and life. This is until an innocent secondary school life (it always starts in the schooling life) which brought me to the oddest and very excited morphing of my new self. I am still learning by the way and that's all I'm saying. I have two regrets in my secondary school days. One is I didn't put enough effort in my education which made me enlisted to the national service at 19 and the next is never being in a single relationship nor a single date. I try to avoid hurting others and I hardly even had a single female friend. The moment I befriend some girl, I try to be 'nice' to her. Just being all polite and not even one cheeky remark to her. For me, this was like respecting the girl. I was brought up that way. My mum always tell me to respect women which is true but in what way? She never told me what makes a women get attracted to a guy, no parents will because this was like giving grenades to the kids. All the time, I gave respect to the women, I always end up getting burned. "You are a nice guy, but I think we should remain as friends.." which was what most girls have told me continuously. I have heard the phrase a zillion times and each time it makes me lose my esteem even further and I envied those guys having countless dates. So I came up with the conclusion, "I was born to be ignored" and some guys have it with girls and some guys just don't. I was always under the delusion guys need to have looks, height, body and etc to get a beautiful girl since 2003. (but it never was)
What made me change my decision was after watching 'Hitch' a hilarious romantic comedy acted by Will Smith. The movie may be full of humour but if you watch carefully what the movie is trying to comprehend is how a guy is able to a girl of his dreams. Girl of his dreams seems too cliche, let's just say how to get girl he wanna and the steps he gotta do to get the girl. It is just a movie and of course movies exaggerate is what you people will think. Yea, certain part they may but not all. The movie triggered my reaction in going to find out more. I read magazines, search the internet and listen to experienced friends who were in relationships but all were in vain. It helped in away but not totally. It was only when I know about this awesome material from a group of people from various countries, then I started realizing the so called secret to intrigue a woman. But first I need to change myself. Not fully but the important parts. I needed to look good. You think I'm shallow? Well let me tell you when I meant that.
1)I changed the way I spoke. I started to learn to speak confidently. Confidence brings out a person's personality.
2)I wanted to lose weight and so I did. Fortunately I had the national service to help me. When I went in I was 78kg and after the service I was 66kg. For guys who wanna lose weight and the NS is not there, join a gym.
3)I changed the way I dress. I use to dress rather sloppily. Choose colours which suits your skin colour and try to have your own style.
4)Lastly, I shaved my head bald after my doctor's advice for a million times. "Do you have a gf?" "No, I don't." I said "Then shave your head. You will look better." I thought I was never gonna forgive myself but after doing it but I was surprised. What took me so long? I looked much better. I had transformed from 4 to 6.5 on the attractiveness scale. If anyone asks me why I shaved skin I just claim "I use to have it long down my ass but because it was covering my best asset, I shave it" and then give a cheeky smile.
These are what I mean by looking good. These are just some basic aspects but they are not exactly required to get a women. By doing this, a dude may get confident on himself. Don't just do it for the females. Do it for yourself. Make yourself feel glad that you achieve something.
The morphing, yes I did receive results from women. I must admit I am not the type of guy where chicks go, "Woah! Check out the cutie!" because I am bald and Asian chicks mostly don't dig bald guys. (I only had a hot Caucasian girl calling me hot once when I cross the street.) I don't need to be a cutie but I know once I start talking to a girl, she will be intrigued. What I talk, is another thing. That is how Syler was formed.
The most important thing in attracting the girl is the way you speak. Trust me, it is. I am not going in detail but I may come up with another post talking about the mind of women. Getting to know women is not an easy art and I got to say I am not a pro at it. I am still a learner. There are better guys out there in the field who make me look like an underwear model but they end up getting phone numbers of three to four girls per night in a club. Amazing isn't it? How they do it? Haha..(No, it has nothing to do with cheating the girl nor am I asshole to do that)
I'm being frank here. Till today, when I walked up to talk to a girl I wanna know, I still have the fear in my heart but I do challenge myself. All the emotions are gonna fuck me up but it's how I deal with them. Like dealing a small rock in my shoe when I'm walking. I may come up with more post in this topic. Maybe more indept but let's see. Syler, will always be part of me and he seems to be more popular than I am. Yea, I'm impersonating my ownself. Bizarre eh?
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Face Off..
I was just going through Jessie blog when I saw this intriguing thing in her blog. It's kind of funny when you actually go through it. I mean imagine comparing yourself with other celebrities? Anyway, I just did it for the fun of it and the results are really damn astonishing! I was kind of laughing at the celebrities, the website compared me to. Dudes and Dudettes, you should try it out too. Just do for the fun of it. Enjoy folks!
| http://www.myheritage.com |
Monday, July 16, 2007
Eye Of The Tiger..
Hey buddies. My whole body is aching after an exhausting but satiating workout which consist of long run and abdominal exercises. But there is a sense of satisfaction there, even though you have to go through the 'good' pain. I have to whip back to shape, something I would like to do for the good of myself and also I have been challenged by a friend. I love challenges. It makes my mind work even harder than it use to be. Mentally and physically a workout challenges oneself. Hey, it sounds like those days when I'm in the national service. "No pain! No pain!"
My cousin is the one who actually triggered my working out again. He was like, "Hey dude. What's up with you man? Nowadays I don't see you working out much. You are basically indulging yourself in the laptop." Even my sister feels my body has lost it's tone and she claims I've become smaller. SMALLER??!! Come on sis, you gotta be kidding but she ain't. Once I took off my shirt and stared my body in the mirror, I understand why. My body did lost it's shape though not completely and to be precise, I have put on the pounds! Not only on my tummy but also on my hiney! "Vinod! Wake up, you gotta do something about it." I remembered those days when I was super fit and I was into the craze of working out basically every single day. The abs, pecs were there though I gotta admit, I still had alittle excess fat on my belly which was freaking tough in getting out because I used to be overweight before. I was in the process of getting the last bit out when suddenly the whole working out stopped for a moment. It's like a video player where the pause button was pressed and play button was not hit again for long.
Up went the exercise plan, handwritten motivational chart and a picture of a dude with 8abs which was cut from a magazine. They are facing right in front of my bed so whenever I wake up, I see those things which will inspire me to workout and I have been doing it since though the whole of last week I didn't work out because I was super busy. That is not a valid reason to skip my workouts and I blame myself for it because I always believe there is some time to do something. If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.
It's common we humans do get lazy and we blame it on the weather, food or whatever except on ourselves but we know deep down those are all excuses and we definitely do feel guilty somehow. I'm not saying one should workout every single day but do it at least four times a week. Can't work out for an hour? Do it for half an hour. It is scientifically proven that humans need at least half an hour of workout a day. Be it walking, running, skipping or whatever. Your mind is very dangerous object. It will do anything in preventing you from workout. It will fuck up your feelings. In this situation, are you gonna listen to your head or your heart where it tells you, "Go and work out." Once you start listening to your mind, you have already lost the battle. You are the leader of soul, not your mind. Are you so weak that you gonna listen to it? Of course, when you are ill, please do rest.
For me or for anyone who wanna tone up your body, guys especially out there, cardio exercises are not enough. Cardio exercises are basically for losing the calories in your body and your body to sweat it out. You need to lift weights and do other form of exercises to get a lean body. You need to watch what you consume as well. I'm not saying go on a diet but minimize yourself from indulging food which are too greasy, tidbits, softdrinks. Eat more fruits, vegetables and meat. Try this. Prevent yourself from eating junk food for the weekdays but consume a little during the weekends. It's like rewarding yourself. Cardio+ Weights+correct food intake= Lean Body.
I have did my best in giving advices to three beautiful chicks who have asked me for help in working out as well and it's a pleasure to hear they are actually heeding my advice. Emily is doing crunches and from what I've heard she was doing it the whole of last week. I hope she is continuing with it. Agnes, I loaned her my weighted skipping rope and I can see she is working out as well because she actually posted pictures of her skipping in her blog and she has also been doing the crunches. I told her I won't wanna the ropes back unless she starts looking sexy again. Jannah. I really am speechless because she's just a lazy person. She ain't overweight but she wanna tone up certain areas and even after teaching her certain workouts, it was all in vain. Lazy? What else can it be? Typical Jannah. Not only spoilt but lazy. Haha. I really hope she starts working out as well and she'll look even more awesome than now.
Getting results isn't a quick process when working out. You need to have discipline and slowly the results will start coming out and so will a smile on your face. Remember Stallone in Rocky movies? See how he trained for the upcoming match? NO PAIN, NO GAIN!
My cousin is the one who actually triggered my working out again. He was like, "Hey dude. What's up with you man? Nowadays I don't see you working out much. You are basically indulging yourself in the laptop." Even my sister feels my body has lost it's tone and she claims I've become smaller. SMALLER??!! Come on sis, you gotta be kidding but she ain't. Once I took off my shirt and stared my body in the mirror, I understand why. My body did lost it's shape though not completely and to be precise, I have put on the pounds! Not only on my tummy but also on my hiney! "Vinod! Wake up, you gotta do something about it." I remembered those days when I was super fit and I was into the craze of working out basically every single day. The abs, pecs were there though I gotta admit, I still had alittle excess fat on my belly which was freaking tough in getting out because I used to be overweight before. I was in the process of getting the last bit out when suddenly the whole working out stopped for a moment. It's like a video player where the pause button was pressed and play button was not hit again for long.
Up went the exercise plan, handwritten motivational chart and a picture of a dude with 8abs which was cut from a magazine. They are facing right in front of my bed so whenever I wake up, I see those things which will inspire me to workout and I have been doing it since though the whole of last week I didn't work out because I was super busy. That is not a valid reason to skip my workouts and I blame myself for it because I always believe there is some time to do something. If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.
It's common we humans do get lazy and we blame it on the weather, food or whatever except on ourselves but we know deep down those are all excuses and we definitely do feel guilty somehow. I'm not saying one should workout every single day but do it at least four times a week. Can't work out for an hour? Do it for half an hour. It is scientifically proven that humans need at least half an hour of workout a day. Be it walking, running, skipping or whatever. Your mind is very dangerous object. It will do anything in preventing you from workout. It will fuck up your feelings. In this situation, are you gonna listen to your head or your heart where it tells you, "Go and work out." Once you start listening to your mind, you have already lost the battle. You are the leader of soul, not your mind. Are you so weak that you gonna listen to it? Of course, when you are ill, please do rest.
For me or for anyone who wanna tone up your body, guys especially out there, cardio exercises are not enough. Cardio exercises are basically for losing the calories in your body and your body to sweat it out. You need to lift weights and do other form of exercises to get a lean body. You need to watch what you consume as well. I'm not saying go on a diet but minimize yourself from indulging food which are too greasy, tidbits, softdrinks. Eat more fruits, vegetables and meat. Try this. Prevent yourself from eating junk food for the weekdays but consume a little during the weekends. It's like rewarding yourself. Cardio+ Weights+correct food intake= Lean Body.
I have did my best in giving advices to three beautiful chicks who have asked me for help in working out as well and it's a pleasure to hear they are actually heeding my advice. Emily is doing crunches and from what I've heard she was doing it the whole of last week. I hope she is continuing with it. Agnes, I loaned her my weighted skipping rope and I can see she is working out as well because she actually posted pictures of her skipping in her blog and she has also been doing the crunches. I told her I won't wanna the ropes back unless she starts looking sexy again. Jannah. I really am speechless because she's just a lazy person. She ain't overweight but she wanna tone up certain areas and even after teaching her certain workouts, it was all in vain. Lazy? What else can it be? Typical Jannah. Not only spoilt but lazy. Haha. I really hope she starts working out as well and she'll look even more awesome than now.
Getting results isn't a quick process when working out. You need to have discipline and slowly the results will start coming out and so will a smile on your face. Remember Stallone in Rocky movies? See how he trained for the upcoming match? NO PAIN, NO GAIN!
Monday, July 9, 2007
Fashion Statement?!
Hey folks. Yea, you must be wondering, "Vinod?!!" Blogging so fast? Actually I am trying to improve myself in blogging at least once a weak if possible. Frankly it's not easy. My UTs have been coming up without stopping and my results have not been according to what I wanna. Sad, my daily grades are alright, it's just the UTs which can be a tough nut to crack.
Anyway as I was in the bus arriving from school, I was thinking about my what my classmate Jojo, have been rattling in the class today. "SAVE THE EARTH"! That dude even went to the extend of switching off the lights during breaks to prove his point! Though he used humor in displaying the above phrase, during the second break he was actually telling me with the serious tone and look that we as humans can play a small part in helping mother nature. " I don't see a reason why we need to use straws in our drinks. We can actually don't make straws." At the point of time it makes it seem Jojo has gone bonkers and from the way he speaks, it looks like our Jojo has metamorphasize into some environmentalist. But when you actually analyze what Jojo is trying to comprehend, it makes sense. Our planet Earth is actually dying. There are various topics if I wanna talk about it but I won't. I wanna you people to think about how you as a human can do a small part in helping out our planet Earth. Remember a small help from each person would result in a big and better outcome.
The thing I really wanna talk about it fashion statements. In fact, underwear fashion statements. Why I wanna talk about it? I tell you why.. My last weekend on a Sunday I was carrying out my part time job as a waiter. It was all going pretty well when I saw a bizzare but hilarious site by accident. Let me tell you it's by accident, so do not think Nod is some chee-ko-pai or needy pervert. I was bringing out food from the kitchen to a customer when there was another 27plus female customer on another table waiting for her food as well. It just so happen that her skirt, a mini one was showing some peek-a-boo action. What do you call it in Hokkien or is it Cantonese, erm.. "Chao kang"? Yea, that's the word though I'm not exactly sure which Chinese dialect group it is from. I didn't wanna see it but she was sitting in an inappropriate unsightly manner where preventing from looking at it is inevitable. The way some women sit! Sigh!~ But that's not the hilarious part. Her underwear was actually poke-a-dot panties! Holly GOD! What women in the world would wanna wear a poke-a-dot panties!? It's like the stripes on the dalmatian dog! If can I remember, the last I saw, that kind of underwear was on my little kid cousin. I already found SpongeBob boxers and Popeye the sailorman briefs hilarious but that woman's knickers beat hands down and at her age is even more funnier!
Can you imagine a woman who wear this panties on the night she is gonna consummate with her new hubby. What shocked the husband's gonna receive! There he is lying on the bed waiting for her all eager to arrive in her sexy clothes and once she starts coming out in those underwear, he's gonna receive a violent blow, he would never recover for sometime. I mean he won't go like "Woah baby! That's a super sexy underwear and it's turning me on already." Holly Crap! Is that the new fashion statement? God, if that is, please do tell me the person who came out with this design and I'll beat the shit out of him! I don't care how big of a brand it is but poke-a-dot panties is a No!No! I mean can you even think about it of being sexy?!
Ladies I don't even care what you guys are gonna wear but please! Please for God's Sake, refrain yourself from wearing those stuff because it's not only gonna bruise your ego if you happen to ahem accidentally show but that is definitely not womanly nor phat.
P:S: This post is not to humiliate the women but check out the humor and the weirdest stuffs some people can do. :)
Anyway as I was in the bus arriving from school, I was thinking about my what my classmate Jojo, have been rattling in the class today. "SAVE THE EARTH"! That dude even went to the extend of switching off the lights during breaks to prove his point! Though he used humor in displaying the above phrase, during the second break he was actually telling me with the serious tone and look that we as humans can play a small part in helping mother nature. " I don't see a reason why we need to use straws in our drinks. We can actually don't make straws." At the point of time it makes it seem Jojo has gone bonkers and from the way he speaks, it looks like our Jojo has metamorphasize into some environmentalist. But when you actually analyze what Jojo is trying to comprehend, it makes sense. Our planet Earth is actually dying. There are various topics if I wanna talk about it but I won't. I wanna you people to think about how you as a human can do a small part in helping out our planet Earth. Remember a small help from each person would result in a big and better outcome.
The thing I really wanna talk about it fashion statements. In fact, underwear fashion statements. Why I wanna talk about it? I tell you why.. My last weekend on a Sunday I was carrying out my part time job as a waiter. It was all going pretty well when I saw a bizzare but hilarious site by accident. Let me tell you it's by accident, so do not think Nod is some chee-ko-pai or needy pervert. I was bringing out food from the kitchen to a customer when there was another 27plus female customer on another table waiting for her food as well. It just so happen that her skirt, a mini one was showing some peek-a-boo action. What do you call it in Hokkien or is it Cantonese, erm.. "Chao kang"? Yea, that's the word though I'm not exactly sure which Chinese dialect group it is from. I didn't wanna see it but she was sitting in an inappropriate unsightly manner where preventing from looking at it is inevitable. The way some women sit! Sigh!~ But that's not the hilarious part. Her underwear was actually poke-a-dot panties! Holly GOD! What women in the world would wanna wear a poke-a-dot panties!? It's like the stripes on the dalmatian dog! If can I remember, the last I saw, that kind of underwear was on my little kid cousin. I already found SpongeBob boxers and Popeye the sailorman briefs hilarious but that woman's knickers beat hands down and at her age is even more funnier!
Can you imagine a woman who wear this panties on the night she is gonna consummate with her new hubby. What shocked the husband's gonna receive! There he is lying on the bed waiting for her all eager to arrive in her sexy clothes and once she starts coming out in those underwear, he's gonna receive a violent blow, he would never recover for sometime. I mean he won't go like "Woah baby! That's a super sexy underwear and it's turning me on already." Holly Crap! Is that the new fashion statement? God, if that is, please do tell me the person who came out with this design and I'll beat the shit out of him! I don't care how big of a brand it is but poke-a-dot panties is a No!No! I mean can you even think about it of being sexy?!
Ladies I don't even care what you guys are gonna wear but please! Please for God's Sake, refrain yourself from wearing those stuff because it's not only gonna bruise your ego if you happen to ahem accidentally show but that is definitely not womanly nor phat.
P:S: This post is not to humiliate the women but check out the humor and the weirdest stuffs some people can do. :)
Saturday, July 7, 2007
The most Hillarious youtube video I've ever seen!
I was going through my some songs in youtube when I came across this video. It's super hillarious and the irony part is some chicks even date the lowest of the low! Check out this video and you'll understand what I mean. Happy Earth day people.
Wednesday, July 4, 2007
What happens when all guys congregate and work together?
Hey people. Today was the most awesome group I ever had. It was an all guys team. NO! NO! I'm not being prejudice to the women in my class.. Wait! Before you throw your slippers at me, check out the videos of what we guys did today. It was so fun working with the dudes and we ended up taking the videos so many times because we kept forgetting our lines and we laughed like there is no tomorrow. Bloody hillarious, especially Dominc and Jojo who can not only act out well but make a joke out of it. Even the serious Chris, was laughing until his face turned red!
I personally feel this is how an assignment should be done. Having fun and also learning out of it. That is some sort of deal eh? Why don't you people out there try it? Instead of the boring powerpoints with too many slides, do a video if appropriate. Let me tell you will definitely love it and you will tend to understand the lesson more and catch the class attention easier when presenting.
NOW FOLKS! SEAT BACK AND ENJOY THE VIDEOS.
Dude in red t-shirt-Jojo
Dude in blue jeans-Ma ji
Dude in white jacket-Chris
Dude in black McDonald's shirt-Domnic
Skin-headed dude-Vinod
I personally feel this is how an assignment should be done. Having fun and also learning out of it. That is some sort of deal eh? Why don't you people out there try it? Instead of the boring powerpoints with too many slides, do a video if appropriate. Let me tell you will definitely love it and you will tend to understand the lesson more and catch the class attention easier when presenting.
NOW FOLKS! SEAT BACK AND ENJOY THE VIDEOS.
Dude in red t-shirt-Jojo
Dude in blue jeans-Ma ji
Dude in white jacket-Chris
Dude in black McDonald's shirt-Domnic
Skin-headed dude-Vinod
Sunday, July 1, 2007
Are guys that shallow?
Hey friends out there. I know, I know, you are hurling vulgar words at me for not updating my blog for a freaking long time. Even my pal domnic was telling me, "hey dude, you should update your blog on daily basis, if not at least once a week." I agree with domnic in away but I fail to agree with him claiming that a blog is an online journal. I feel a journal is a very personal thing where you put all your secrets and whatever things or feelings on the little valuable book. Why have a journal when you are not letting anyone read it? Come on people, don't bull me in telling me you don't have any single secret you won't wanna anyone to know except yourself? Frankly speaking, I don't know how these people can find time to update their blog because I seriously hadn't had the time or should I say I haven't find the time? :)
I was lying down on my bed yesterday and thinking about this. Are guys really that shallow? I mean I'll be the first to defend my gender, (of-course it gotta be genuine) and argue my point with any girl mostly the bra-burning feminist who claims "Guys!? Typical of them." Like one of my female friends who claim, "All guys, they just think with their dicks!" Outrageous statement! So i snapped back with this reply," How many guys do you know in Singapore? Say 1/2 of the guy population in Singapore? And this jerks whom you claim think with their dicks, don't you think they are smart enough to get into your pants?! So who actually thinks? You or the jerks?" I am not here to support the jerks who makes real men lose their image to girls but just because some scumbags do shit stuff like that how is it fair in saying all guys are the same? But recently, I have been really dissecting this issue. What triggered my reaction? Let me give you an example.
I was out with my friends, Han Sen and Agnes finally. Both are good looking people so it's not tough in letting me catch guys and girls scrutinizing on my friends. We were at Coffee Bean in Takashimaya. I was buying the drinks for my pals when the incident happen. When I came back with the drinks, Han Sen was giving me the cheeky grin and Agnes was on the phone with someone with a disappointed plus pissed look mixed on her face. My intuition told me something actually happen when Han Sen went, "Bro, do you know what happen?" At the same time, Agnes ended her call. "Shawn likes her man!" Hansen claimed with the same cheeky grin on his face. I was like"What!?" "Shawn just messaged her and said he likes her and ask her to be his girl!" Now it is my turn to grin but I ended up laughing. Agnes hit me on my arm and said, "It's not funny ok!" I ended up laughing more. I knew it was coming for her. That fucking hypocrite actually claim both of us are a pair when he himself secretly liking her and can you imagine confessing to a girl and asking her to be his girl through message?! Which dude does that? At the least he could have confronted her directly and told her. All of us, Han Sen, Shawn, Agnes and myself work at Happy Daze, a family bar. Agnes and Shawn were close friends but I always knew Shawn had a thing for her but just kept quiet about it. Agnes is one of the few females where many guys like hanging out because she has no airs, laid back and can take a joke where many girls will get sensitive. The problem is her friendliness can be taken mistakenly by many guys. Actually guys around 17 to 20 are the ones committing the error. When Agnes and I were heading back home in the train, Agnes told me "There is no such thing as a male best friend Vinod. All the guys whom I think would be my best friend ended up liking me." I still can't forget the disappointed and sad look on her face. I was speechless for a moment and that was one of the few times I cannot fight for my gender. Agnes really had the close friendship with Shawn but it turned the other way round. I told her, maybe her male best friend has yet to arrive. And since her male friends are mostly young, what can you expect from these dudes? I am one of those guys who ended up liking my close female friend though I didn't confess when I was in secondary school. Yea, I admit, I was like a typical guy but I got so ashamed with myself one day when I returned home. I mean she's giving me her friendship and I secretly liking her? No wonder many folks are primitive in thinking men should not have close friendship with women. I made a vow that day that I will never betray a friendship with a woman no matter how hot or gorgeous she is. Besides, having a hot female friend is cool. :)
Now the ultimate question is this? Are guys really this shallow? I mean a girl giving her friendship and we thinking otherwise. Why do we guys not think this way when a guy is giving us friendship? Oh we can't right or we'll be considered as homosexuals? Can't a girl not give close friendship? Why does our thinking differ when a girl gives great friendship? The only thing which differs is her anatomy right? I want you people to give me your opinions in this matter. Please do share.
My opinion is, it does not actually happens with guys who are of adult age, say around 21 and above because I feel we guys are mature in thinking. I am not being prejudice here but most of the time these actually happens with the young dudes. I am not saying a girl having close friendship with a guy can't fall with him or him falling with her but what I am trying to comprehend is for that to happen both sides must agree. It takes two hands to clap and if that's the case it's alright. I am all for it but what if the girl only really gives her true friendship and nothing else. What if she feels if whatever happens, you are the first to know because you are her close friend? And how do we guys take the message? Do we take as, "I think she likes me. I can feel a chemistry." or "I am glad I do have a close friend as in a girl." How are we gonna take it guys? Are we still gonna think in a gross typical shallow way?
Personally I feel having female friends is awesome because I, as a guy know how a dude exactly or more or less thinks but it's different in a way a female thinks and finding a close female friend isn't easy. It's rare. How many females out there are actually the types we guys actually wanna befriend? I mean as a close friendship? Not many. So guys, don't waste your chances or spoil you great friendship with a woman when you think a girl is actually falling for you when she actually loves your friendship. You are not only hurting the friendship but also make the woman ask herself, "Are guys these shallow"?
I was lying down on my bed yesterday and thinking about this. Are guys really that shallow? I mean I'll be the first to defend my gender, (of-course it gotta be genuine) and argue my point with any girl mostly the bra-burning feminist who claims "Guys!? Typical of them." Like one of my female friends who claim, "All guys, they just think with their dicks!" Outrageous statement! So i snapped back with this reply," How many guys do you know in Singapore? Say 1/2 of the guy population in Singapore? And this jerks whom you claim think with their dicks, don't you think they are smart enough to get into your pants?! So who actually thinks? You or the jerks?" I am not here to support the jerks who makes real men lose their image to girls but just because some scumbags do shit stuff like that how is it fair in saying all guys are the same? But recently, I have been really dissecting this issue. What triggered my reaction? Let me give you an example.
I was out with my friends, Han Sen and Agnes finally. Both are good looking people so it's not tough in letting me catch guys and girls scrutinizing on my friends. We were at Coffee Bean in Takashimaya. I was buying the drinks for my pals when the incident happen. When I came back with the drinks, Han Sen was giving me the cheeky grin and Agnes was on the phone with someone with a disappointed plus pissed look mixed on her face. My intuition told me something actually happen when Han Sen went, "Bro, do you know what happen?" At the same time, Agnes ended her call. "Shawn likes her man!" Hansen claimed with the same cheeky grin on his face. I was like"What!?" "Shawn just messaged her and said he likes her and ask her to be his girl!" Now it is my turn to grin but I ended up laughing. Agnes hit me on my arm and said, "It's not funny ok!" I ended up laughing more. I knew it was coming for her. That fucking hypocrite actually claim both of us are a pair when he himself secretly liking her and can you imagine confessing to a girl and asking her to be his girl through message?! Which dude does that? At the least he could have confronted her directly and told her. All of us, Han Sen, Shawn, Agnes and myself work at Happy Daze, a family bar. Agnes and Shawn were close friends but I always knew Shawn had a thing for her but just kept quiet about it. Agnes is one of the few females where many guys like hanging out because she has no airs, laid back and can take a joke where many girls will get sensitive. The problem is her friendliness can be taken mistakenly by many guys. Actually guys around 17 to 20 are the ones committing the error. When Agnes and I were heading back home in the train, Agnes told me "There is no such thing as a male best friend Vinod. All the guys whom I think would be my best friend ended up liking me." I still can't forget the disappointed and sad look on her face. I was speechless for a moment and that was one of the few times I cannot fight for my gender. Agnes really had the close friendship with Shawn but it turned the other way round. I told her, maybe her male best friend has yet to arrive. And since her male friends are mostly young, what can you expect from these dudes? I am one of those guys who ended up liking my close female friend though I didn't confess when I was in secondary school. Yea, I admit, I was like a typical guy but I got so ashamed with myself one day when I returned home. I mean she's giving me her friendship and I secretly liking her? No wonder many folks are primitive in thinking men should not have close friendship with women. I made a vow that day that I will never betray a friendship with a woman no matter how hot or gorgeous she is. Besides, having a hot female friend is cool. :)
Now the ultimate question is this? Are guys really this shallow? I mean a girl giving her friendship and we thinking otherwise. Why do we guys not think this way when a guy is giving us friendship? Oh we can't right or we'll be considered as homosexuals? Can't a girl not give close friendship? Why does our thinking differ when a girl gives great friendship? The only thing which differs is her anatomy right? I want you people to give me your opinions in this matter. Please do share.
My opinion is, it does not actually happens with guys who are of adult age, say around 21 and above because I feel we guys are mature in thinking. I am not being prejudice here but most of the time these actually happens with the young dudes. I am not saying a girl having close friendship with a guy can't fall with him or him falling with her but what I am trying to comprehend is for that to happen both sides must agree. It takes two hands to clap and if that's the case it's alright. I am all for it but what if the girl only really gives her true friendship and nothing else. What if she feels if whatever happens, you are the first to know because you are her close friend? And how do we guys take the message? Do we take as, "I think she likes me. I can feel a chemistry." or "I am glad I do have a close friend as in a girl." How are we gonna take it guys? Are we still gonna think in a gross typical shallow way?
Personally I feel having female friends is awesome because I, as a guy know how a dude exactly or more or less thinks but it's different in a way a female thinks and finding a close female friend isn't easy. It's rare. How many females out there are actually the types we guys actually wanna befriend? I mean as a close friendship? Not many. So guys, don't waste your chances or spoil you great friendship with a woman when you think a girl is actually falling for you when she actually loves your friendship. You are not only hurting the friendship but also make the woman ask herself, "Are guys these shallow"?
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