Hey amigos and amigas. Freaking long time eh? I mean my update? Actually it isn't that long compared to the last time where Dom was nagging me to update which theoretically speaking, I didn't write in a new post for nearly two months. Yea that long. But that was because I was really tied up. So much so my cousin was saying, "Dude, take a break, have a wank!" Haha. Anyway I was actually wanting to update earlier, it's just the title where I was dissecting about alot. Yea, I was practically thinking about the correct title for this blog for some days. Call me a perfectionist, but I feel if you wanna write about an article or post, the title must be right. It's just like a movie. Titles sometimes intrigue people to watch a movie.
I was asking Dom but he misunderstood me. He thought I wanna the title for my blog page where he was saying, "Do not offer me a comb!" That was hillarious but when I told him that actually it's the title, he too was laughing. It's typical of Dom to think differently, in a joking manner actually because that dude is a typical joker. His way of thinking differently to come up with a joke is awesome. Plus he's witty as well. Which chick doesn't wanna the combo in a dude? Oh yea I forgot. It's women we are talking about. Known for complications. Haha. Alright ladies, no hard feelings, ain't a sexist as well. But it's kind of a fact isn't it? As I was showering today, I came up with the title. Funny place to get stuff like that eh? But maybe even Einstein came up with the last formula to make the Atomic bomb while he's answering nature's call? Who knows?
So you must me wondering what's up with the weigh topic right? It feels damn right, the title. I wanted to talk about something really badly, you know to help couples or should I even say 'going to be couples' too. Applicable for everyone. You guys may go, "What do you know about relationships? You are not even attached." Hell yea, I am not and I am not intending to be soon because I love women so much that it's tough to practice monogamy. Haha! Alright that was a joke but this is the truth. I get experienced through other people's experiences.
I need to ask a question to you people. When a man is attached to a woman, does that mean he forgets his friends? Does that mean she becomes his everything? Like if he gotta go somewhere, it's always she who's tagging? It always a 'she' 'she' and 'she'. The same goes to ladies. Is it always a 'he' 'he' and 'he'? I'm being frank here. I'll get literally bored. No offense to the couples out there, but I am being serious here and normally when the above happens, that's how couples cheat each other, that's how they end the relationship with each other, that's how a sweet relationship turns sour. Maybe you people will go, "Wait till you are in a relationship, then you'll be the same". No. I won't. I would never do what most couples do. Why do these problems start? I give you an example.
Fred(not his real name), happen to be dating this girl called Mona(Not her real name). They were so in love with each other and doing things basically with each other all the time. Eat together, go to school together, go back home together and basically see each other every single day. They call the first three months the 'honey moon' period right? So what happens once the three months end? Fred happen to get busy with school work and he realized seeing his girlfriend everyday was a chore and not like going to heaven. It's no more 'to the moon and back' but 'to the hell and back'. He became bored seeing his gf. He lost his close buddies where once they go "through thick and thin", because he was avoiding them once he gotta attached. So what happen? Well, he started avoiding his gf, not totally but because 'now' he needed his friends. He started telling lots of fibs to his gf just not to meet her all the time. His gf became confused with her bf. She started becoming possessive and keep asking him, "What's wrong?" and also, "Do you still love me?" He became depressed and she became depressed. I saw him online in Msn the other day and he came talking to me. I happen to know him and his gf and I know this would happen between them.
"Dude, it's not that I don't like her, though she is questioning my loyalty and love for her nowadays. It's just that a man needs his space. You, I and she needs her space. We all need it. She's sticking to me like glue and I feel uncomfortable." From the way he write, I know he is feeling tensed. I replied him sarcastically, "Dude, wow. You are speaking so wisely now. If only you have practiced it earlier, you wouldn't be in this shit. " Then Fred said, "Dude, help me. I love her but I need my space. I have been lying to her a lot, just to avoid her but I don't want to. What can I do?"
Women, by and large, are more perceptive than men. They can instantly identify insincerity and bullshit. So to make a lie 'believable', a guy has to be a real actor but the question is even though he is one, how long can he concoct? Fred's gf wasn't the only one at fault, but Fred himself was the culprit. The reason why his gf became demanding and possessive was because of him. He played the 'game' with her together . He 'give in' to her in everything. Like going to school, eating and seeing her all the time. So what happens when suddenly he stops? She will definitely find it odd. She can't accept Fred's attitude. She becomes melodramatic. It's not her fault. It's Fred who started it. The more Fred gives in to her, the more she becomes demanding. It's not only women. It's Men as well. Most humans tend to take advantage of something when everything is falling on their laps. They take things for granted. Like Fred, he nearly lost his buddies. Why is it when one is attached, the friends suffer the consequences? Why are the friends punished for no freaking reason? You mean to tell me, friends are just there to pass time and once getting attached, friends are forgotten? But I thought the friends came first before the 'significant other' ? So you only go back to your friends if you happen to have problems in your relationship? That's fucking selfish. What do you take friends for? A ride?
I am going to tell you people what one gotta do when you are in a relationship or going to be in a relationship. I may be wrong and some might hit me with coarse languages now but this is how I feel.
1)Do not see your other gf or bf every single day. You'll get bored. Trust me. We all do so don't fib with me.
2) Do not do every single thing with your gf or bf. True, couples do most things together but refrain from it.
3) Do not forget your friends. Your true pals will always be there for you. Never forget them. Never take them for a ride.
4) Do not talk in the phone the whole day with your gf or bf. I see my cousin doing that with his gf most of the time and I wonder if he'll ever get bored and become dehydrated. I am not saying not to speak with your partner. Speak, but minimize it to maybe 30mins per day? Or the most, 1 hour.
5) Please for God's sake, give each other your space, male and female. All of us need our space or we'll feel uncomfortable.
6) Try to see your partner once or twice a week because you'll definitely be eager to see them.
I advised Fred from to do all the above, I have explained. But first I told him to go and have an open chat with his gf. Tell him how he feels and what they should do. He's doing that now and he claims him seeing his gf on Fri, make him excited. The more you delay from doing or seeing something or someone( I mean the things you want to do), the more you wanna see or do it. So challenge yourself. In future, when I get my gf, I'll explain this terms to her. Alright don't say terms because it sounds like a treaty. Haha. Just say something both of us should talk about and understand and do it. So anybody wanna be my gf? I am sorry, I don't practice monogamy. Haha.
I was asking Dom but he misunderstood me. He thought I wanna the title for my blog page where he was saying, "Do not offer me a comb!" That was hillarious but when I told him that actually it's the title, he too was laughing. It's typical of Dom to think differently, in a joking manner actually because that dude is a typical joker. His way of thinking differently to come up with a joke is awesome. Plus he's witty as well. Which chick doesn't wanna the combo in a dude? Oh yea I forgot. It's women we are talking about. Known for complications. Haha. Alright ladies, no hard feelings, ain't a sexist as well. But it's kind of a fact isn't it? As I was showering today, I came up with the title. Funny place to get stuff like that eh? But maybe even Einstein came up with the last formula to make the Atomic bomb while he's answering nature's call? Who knows?
So you must me wondering what's up with the weigh topic right? It feels damn right, the title. I wanted to talk about something really badly, you know to help couples or should I even say 'going to be couples' too. Applicable for everyone. You guys may go, "What do you know about relationships? You are not even attached." Hell yea, I am not and I am not intending to be soon because I love women so much that it's tough to practice monogamy. Haha! Alright that was a joke but this is the truth. I get experienced through other people's experiences.
I need to ask a question to you people. When a man is attached to a woman, does that mean he forgets his friends? Does that mean she becomes his everything? Like if he gotta go somewhere, it's always she who's tagging? It always a 'she' 'she' and 'she'. The same goes to ladies. Is it always a 'he' 'he' and 'he'? I'm being frank here. I'll get literally bored. No offense to the couples out there, but I am being serious here and normally when the above happens, that's how couples cheat each other, that's how they end the relationship with each other, that's how a sweet relationship turns sour. Maybe you people will go, "Wait till you are in a relationship, then you'll be the same". No. I won't. I would never do what most couples do. Why do these problems start? I give you an example.
Fred(not his real name), happen to be dating this girl called Mona(Not her real name). They were so in love with each other and doing things basically with each other all the time. Eat together, go to school together, go back home together and basically see each other every single day. They call the first three months the 'honey moon' period right? So what happens once the three months end? Fred happen to get busy with school work and he realized seeing his girlfriend everyday was a chore and not like going to heaven. It's no more 'to the moon and back' but 'to the hell and back'. He became bored seeing his gf. He lost his close buddies where once they go "through thick and thin", because he was avoiding them once he gotta attached. So what happen? Well, he started avoiding his gf, not totally but because 'now' he needed his friends. He started telling lots of fibs to his gf just not to meet her all the time. His gf became confused with her bf. She started becoming possessive and keep asking him, "What's wrong?" and also, "Do you still love me?" He became depressed and she became depressed. I saw him online in Msn the other day and he came talking to me. I happen to know him and his gf and I know this would happen between them.
"Dude, it's not that I don't like her, though she is questioning my loyalty and love for her nowadays. It's just that a man needs his space. You, I and she needs her space. We all need it. She's sticking to me like glue and I feel uncomfortable." From the way he write, I know he is feeling tensed. I replied him sarcastically, "Dude, wow. You are speaking so wisely now. If only you have practiced it earlier, you wouldn't be in this shit. " Then Fred said, "Dude, help me. I love her but I need my space. I have been lying to her a lot, just to avoid her but I don't want to. What can I do?"
Women, by and large, are more perceptive than men. They can instantly identify insincerity and bullshit. So to make a lie 'believable', a guy has to be a real actor but the question is even though he is one, how long can he concoct? Fred's gf wasn't the only one at fault, but Fred himself was the culprit. The reason why his gf became demanding and possessive was because of him. He played the 'game' with her together . He 'give in' to her in everything. Like going to school, eating and seeing her all the time. So what happens when suddenly he stops? She will definitely find it odd. She can't accept Fred's attitude. She becomes melodramatic. It's not her fault. It's Fred who started it. The more Fred gives in to her, the more she becomes demanding. It's not only women. It's Men as well. Most humans tend to take advantage of something when everything is falling on their laps. They take things for granted. Like Fred, he nearly lost his buddies. Why is it when one is attached, the friends suffer the consequences? Why are the friends punished for no freaking reason? You mean to tell me, friends are just there to pass time and once getting attached, friends are forgotten? But I thought the friends came first before the 'significant other' ? So you only go back to your friends if you happen to have problems in your relationship? That's fucking selfish. What do you take friends for? A ride?
I am going to tell you people what one gotta do when you are in a relationship or going to be in a relationship. I may be wrong and some might hit me with coarse languages now but this is how I feel.
1)Do not see your other gf or bf every single day. You'll get bored. Trust me. We all do so don't fib with me.
2) Do not do every single thing with your gf or bf. True, couples do most things together but refrain from it.
3) Do not forget your friends. Your true pals will always be there for you. Never forget them. Never take them for a ride.
4) Do not talk in the phone the whole day with your gf or bf. I see my cousin doing that with his gf most of the time and I wonder if he'll ever get bored and become dehydrated. I am not saying not to speak with your partner. Speak, but minimize it to maybe 30mins per day? Or the most, 1 hour.
5) Please for God's sake, give each other your space, male and female. All of us need our space or we'll feel uncomfortable.
6) Try to see your partner once or twice a week because you'll definitely be eager to see them.
I advised Fred from to do all the above, I have explained. But first I told him to go and have an open chat with his gf. Tell him how he feels and what they should do. He's doing that now and he claims him seeing his gf on Fri, make him excited. The more you delay from doing or seeing something or someone( I mean the things you want to do), the more you wanna see or do it. So challenge yourself. In future, when I get my gf, I'll explain this terms to her. Alright don't say terms because it sounds like a treaty. Haha. Just say something both of us should talk about and understand and do it. So anybody wanna be my gf? I am sorry, I don't practice monogamy. Haha.
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