Embrace or Smooch?

Hey. What's up to all the amigos and amigas? Just to inform all those caring and loving people out there, I'm doing fine. I guess my departure on Tuesday was rather alarming isn't it? Well, yea, I was going through stress, to put it in short. Feeling uncomfortable rather lately because of some various reasons and after a good chat with a good friend of mine, a psychologist and a facilitator in school, I am doing fine. I guess everyone go through shitty times and mine just happen lately. I gotta say it was a hell of a period and I'm still recovering(I will be lying if I said I had fully recovered) and wanting to think and be positive all the time. I guess in life we gotta face the good and the bad and it's inevitable. We can't run away from it no matter where we wanna hide.

Anyway, today is my pleasure to talk about something I experience a few days ago and it made wanna write about it in this post. Funny, a small incident can make you analyze alot. Don't you think so? The wonders of our mind. Back to the topic, I was in Bus 81, with my maternal side cousin heading down to Kovan Bus-stop(the stop where it leads to Kovan Mrt Station). We were sitting at the back seat with a woman who was carrying one young child, sleeping, on her chest while two other children sleeping on the seat beside her. The kids look rather exhausted. To dissect the long story a little, the mum and I began chatting. She was asking us where we were alighting so we claim it's the Kovan Bus-stop. A smile came to her face because she was alighting at the same bus-stop. She then asked both my cousin and I, a favor which we never would have expected and truthfully both of us were taken aback. Since she was carrying one child on her arms, she asked us to carry the other female child sleeping on the seat.(The third child woke up in the midst of the conversation and my cousin heaved a sigh of relief because he was rather coy in carrying a child and the knucklehead was looking at me with the pity plus cheeky look which showed "Hey, you are gonna carry the child.) I admit I was erm uncomfortable initially carrying an unknown kid and I was thinking really deeply how to pick the kid up carefully and not spoil her beauty sleep which might piss her off if I did and kick me in the nuts. Haha. Okay that is an overstatement but it is possible.:) The bus-stop came and I picked the kid from the seat. Guess what? After instantly picking her up, I don't regret it anymore. I felt so good because she was really hugging me so tightly. Like a big bear hug. She curled her hands around my neck so tightly like her whole life is safe with me. I really love the feeling. And no friends, I ain't a pedophile. So if your crude mind is going into that, halt! I just love the feeling of a great hug. It's like your miseries can be forgotten in a second by just a hug. I realize how much I have missed a hug from someone. The last time I got a hug was from a close female friend whom I have not met up after so long and she's gonna murder me if I still delay in not seeing her. Haha. That hug she gave me was a friendly one, not exactly a bear hug but still it was good but cannot beat the kid's one. Haha, sorry Yenn, pal.

I was later pondering in the evening, am I a hugging sort of person or the kissing sort. Like for example if you are in a relationship, do you prefer a hug or a kiss? Difficult to choose eh? Let me guess most of you guys would prefer a passionate kiss or the one where you actually devour each other mouths grossly right? Haha, that was crude. Sure a great kiss puts you in the mood or should I say lustly mood? The one where testosterone levels rises really high up. But that is when you share an intimate moment right? Is there such thing as a intimate hug? Hmm, I ain't sure but if there was I am sure groping comes in as well. Let me recall back. The part where I was kissed by a chick. I didn't feel so great after the kiss. I mean it kind of seem weird because one, she was a friend's sister who kissed me on the cheek and I was really feeling awkward because I didn't expect it and it my close pal's sister! My pal didn't know it and I also don't have the intention to tell him. The kiss didn't make my day. I wasn't smiling like posing for Colgate. The only feeling I got was, it was wet. Haha. So here I am with my verdict, I prefer hugging anytime than a smacker. A great hug makes you feel like you can achieve anything in the world. It's like a good drug which makes you feel high. That's the feeling I wanna.

In truth we humans need human contact. It is scientifically proven all living things need contact. We are programmed that way by the divine God. The only reason we humans are preventing ourselves from hugging each other is because of the way our brain thinks sexually all the damn time when for example an opposite or same gender hugs one another. Automatically our brain relates to something sexual and being in the Asian Society, we hardly hug people unlike the Westerners. They hug and even kiss each other on the cheeks. In theory that should be the way. We should show our affection to our friends or anyone we happen to meet. In this way, we are not only showing people, we are their friends but we are showing love to human nature as well. Imagine if all the leaders of the world who happen to get themselves in a verbal conflict and the only way to solve the problem is through hugging. Now, don't you think our world would be a great, peaceful place if that happens? No more conflicts and once when cool is lost by someone automatically give the person a bear hug and the setback would be solved. Awesome eh?

After the incident, I was telling to my cousin about the sensation of a great hug and he too agreed that a good hug makes one day and true enough, I was basically smiling the whole day and feeling all lively. Even my mum was asking why I was feeling so delirious. Even as I am writing this post, I can't prevent myself from forgetting the incident. Hug buddy? Anyone?:)