Are guys that shallow?

Hey friends out there. I know, I know, you are hurling vulgar words at me for not updating my blog for a freaking long time. Even my pal domnic was telling me, "hey dude, you should update your blog on daily basis, if not at least once a week." I agree with domnic in away but I fail to agree with him claiming that a blog is an online journal. I feel a journal is a very personal thing where you put all your secrets and whatever things or feelings on the little valuable book. Why have a journal when you are not letting anyone read it? Come on people, don't bull me in telling me you don't have any single secret you won't wanna anyone to know except yourself? Frankly speaking, I don't know how these people can find time to update their blog because I seriously hadn't had the time or should I say I haven't find the time? :)

I was lying down on my bed yesterday and thinking about this. Are guys really that shallow? I mean I'll be the first to defend my gender, (of-course it gotta be genuine) and argue my point with any girl mostly the bra-burning feminist who claims "Guys!? Typical of them." Like one of my female friends who claim, "All guys, they just think with their dicks!" Outrageous statement! So i snapped back with this reply," How many guys do you know in Singapore? Say 1/2 of the guy population in Singapore? And this jerks whom you claim think with their dicks, don't you think they are smart enough to get into your pants?! So who actually thinks? You or the jerks?" I am not here to support the jerks who makes real men lose their image to girls but just because some scumbags do shit stuff like that how is it fair in saying all guys are the same? But recently, I have been really dissecting this issue. What triggered my reaction? Let me give you an example.

I was out with my friends, Han Sen and Agnes finally. Both are good looking people so it's not tough in letting me catch guys and girls scrutinizing on my friends. We were at Coffee Bean in Takashimaya. I was buying the drinks for my pals when the incident happen. When I came back with the drinks, Han Sen was giving me the cheeky grin and Agnes was on the phone with someone with a disappointed plus pissed look mixed on her face. My intuition told me something actually happen when Han Sen went, "Bro, do you know what happen?" At the same time, Agnes ended her call. "Shawn likes her man!" Hansen claimed with the same cheeky grin on his face. I was like"What!?" "Shawn just messaged her and said he likes her and ask her to be his girl!" Now it is my turn to grin but I ended up laughing. Agnes hit me on my arm and said, "It's not funny ok!" I ended up laughing more. I knew it was coming for her. That fucking hypocrite actually claim both of us are a pair when he himself secretly liking her and can you imagine confessing to a girl and asking her to be his girl through message?! Which dude does that? At the least he could have confronted her directly and told her. All of us, Han Sen, Shawn, Agnes and myself work at Happy Daze, a family bar. Agnes and Shawn were close friends but I always knew Shawn had a thing for her but just kept quiet about it. Agnes is one of the few females where many guys like hanging out because she has no airs, laid back and can take a joke where many girls will get sensitive. The problem is her friendliness can be taken mistakenly by many guys. Actually guys around 17 to 20 are the ones committing the error. When Agnes and I were heading back home in the train, Agnes told me "There is no such thing as a male best friend Vinod. All the guys whom I think would be my best friend ended up liking me." I still can't forget the disappointed and sad look on her face. I was speechless for a moment and that was one of the few times I cannot fight for my gender. Agnes really had the close friendship with Shawn but it turned the other way round. I told her, maybe her male best friend has yet to arrive. And since her male friends are mostly young, what can you expect from these dudes? I am one of those guys who ended up liking my close female friend though I didn't confess when I was in secondary school. Yea, I admit, I was like a typical guy but I got so ashamed with myself one day when I returned home. I mean she's giving me her friendship and I secretly liking her? No wonder many folks are primitive in thinking men should not have close friendship with women. I made a vow that day that I will never betray a friendship with a woman no matter how hot or gorgeous she is. Besides, having a hot female friend is cool. :)

Now the ultimate question is this? Are guys really this shallow? I mean a girl giving her friendship and we thinking otherwise. Why do we guys not think this way when a guy is giving us friendship? Oh we can't right or we'll be considered as homosexuals? Can't a girl not give close friendship? Why does our thinking differ when a girl gives great friendship? The only thing which differs is her anatomy right? I want you people to give me your opinions in this matter. Please do share.

My opinion is, it does not actually happens with guys who are of adult age, say around 21 and above because I feel we guys are mature in thinking. I am not being prejudice here but most of the time these actually happens with the young dudes. I am not saying a girl having close friendship with a guy can't fall with him or him falling with her but what I am trying to comprehend is for that to happen both sides must agree. It takes two hands to clap and if that's the case it's alright. I am all for it but what if the girl only really gives her true friendship and nothing else. What if she feels if whatever happens, you are the first to know because you are her close friend? And how do we guys take the message? Do we take as, "I think she likes me. I can feel a chemistry." or "I am glad I do have a close friend as in a girl." How are we gonna take it guys? Are we still gonna think in a gross typical shallow way?

Personally I feel having female friends is awesome because I, as a guy know how a dude exactly or more or less thinks but it's different in a way a female thinks and finding a close female friend isn't easy. It's rare. How many females out there are actually the types we guys actually wanna befriend? I mean as a close friendship? Not many. So guys, don't waste your chances or spoil you great friendship with a woman when you think a girl is actually falling for you when she actually loves your friendship. You are not only hurting the friendship but also make the woman ask herself, "Are guys these shallow"?